This year I have spent quite a bit of time reaching inside to figure out who I really am. Whoa, deep, I know.
I think it's because I am very quickly approaching another decade, or it could be that I have been playing so many different roles in life right now that I am searching for significance among them. I also have begun to see others around me that I find myself defining based on the significant roles in their lives.
I think everyone probably goes through stages where one or two roles supercede most others, but for me, I'm really attempting to nail down the one or two that define me in the view of others, the particular traits that when my name is mentioned are what my friends and family think of first, because I feel that by growing that particular role in my life, I can contribute more significantly to this world than I can if I try to perfect say 10 things and do each of them "fairly well", instead of INCREDIBLY well.
I will admit that in this past year, I have thought that way about several people I've met. Not so much narrowly defining them or compartmentalizing them - although as I write this it probably sounds like I am, but more that when they come across my mind, it's what I first associate with them as impressive and passionate in their lives. For example, there are some women I know who are incredibly fashionable and can pick out clothes and always look amazing, I do not have this ability but I know that if I needed advice in that area, they'd be the first person I'd call; some women have a gift for cooking - if I am in a rut with meals, I can call her and I know it would be easy for her to throw out a months worth of ideas; some women are incredibly patient parents, when I'm on my last nerve, I can call them and get a boost of confidence that I'm not screwing things up. I guess that could be different for anyone's experience with another person and so I probably need an example to illustrate, but I also don't want to offend anyone in the process.
My question here - what am I about to others? How do others SEE me? If I could do something that I'm doing now in a much improved way or really focus on a skill, what is it that I would most likely succeed above and beyond anyone else trying to do that same thing?
I know I have special talents, what I really want to know is what special talents do others view in me? I think if I focus on those, that I might have a shot at taking my life, my family, my marriage, my career, to the next level.
So, my 11 followers, and anyone else that happens upon this post that knows me, well or not. Please share, don't be afraid, be honest. I promise that I will not be offended in any way. I'm not looking for a boost of confidence, I'm looking to GROW, and I'm stuck in moving forward without help. I'm asking for it here, and I'm desperately searching to see me.
All you have to do is click on the little "comments" link below this post, type in your comment and complete the word verification - really it's not that hard. And it could change my life (and yours) for the better!